An Open Letter to My Dad

In a previous post, I showed a quilt I was making for my Dad.  He will be 78 years old this December, and is in failing health.  I'm grateful to have him in my life.  Even though we live so far apart, he is never far from my mind.  I have the opportunity to present this to him in person over the 4th of July weekend.  A fitting time to spend together, with Mom, our son and his family.



Bowtie Hugs and Kisses

 June 2013

Dear Dad,

I remember the first time I met you. It was 1972, and I was just a little girl when I answered the door that day at Nana and Papaw’s house. There you were in your Dress Blues with a bow tie. How handsome you looked! Later, the story goes, you were taking Mom to the Ball.

We had our ups and downs as all Dads and Daughters do and through it all, some part of me always knew that I was loved.

How can I ever begin to remember all the lessons you taught me? Do you remember teaching me to drive that very first time “keep it between the ditches, kid”? Or how about “don’t panic on the first enlistment” when I’d get my feathers ruffled? Or “I’ll always be proud of you. If you want to be a ditch digger, be the best d*mn ditch digger you can be”?

I grew up strong on the lessons I learned from you. I was able to choose a husband who is the love of my life and raise a son who is also proud and strong like you; all from the lessons I learned from you. He will make a good husband and father one day, just like you.

The lesson that sticks with me to this day is, “You have to look at yourself in the mirror”.

Today when I look in the mirror, I see a loving daughter, wife, and mother; a warrior and worrier; and a strong, proud woman who is creative, courageous, caring and grateful to have you in my life.

I regret that we live so very far away from you that we don’t get to see you very often. I created this quilt for you as a reminder of how much I love you. The pattern is made from Bow tie blocks, and it is set in an X and O pattern. I hope that when you wrap it around yourself it will feel like being wrapped in hugs and kisses from us.

I love you Dad.